Dude! Where's My CAr? ....and What Happened to my Keys?

The past few weeks I have been talking with several Masters and slaves, Doms and subs about a subject that seems to be a source of consternation for all. It is a problem that is prevelant not only in the leather community , but by Society at large. By that, I mean it is in the gay and straight world. I seem to be asked consistently from both gays and straights, " What happened to "courting" before you get involved with someone?". In othere words, where did the art of dating go? It begs the question....Has our need for instant gratification gotten us to rely on sex rather than emotions as to who we end up with? Used to, when someone was interested in someone that they met they would talk first and maybe exchange numbers. Then after several phone calls, a rendezvous was set up at a public place and the two would go on a "Date". Parting afterwards usually at the rendezvous point. Then it would progress to someone being picked up at their home and taken on a date by the dominate interested party. Sometimes dutch treat , sometimes not. After a few of those"dates" then you would think about having sex. It was usually wonderful and exciting as it could possibly be because you had some anticipation and mystery about it. It also had some meaning to the act.
With the advent of the Internet and with our incessant need for instant gratification we seem to think that the proverbial "Hookup" for sex after 5 minutes of talk will be the determining factor in whether a relationship developes. It isn't the fact of honesty in the dating process of telling whether it will work or not and telling the other person that you just want to be friends and help each other find mates ,that is obsolete. A relationship based on 5 minutes of talk and one roll in the hay, is doomed from the start. Unless, of course, you are a robot and have no emotions. Sex meant the commitment to see where the relationship goes and the bond of emotions come in. Learning about someone first and be a continued process as time goes by. I guess it was inevitable that as the faster we seem to go and the more we seem to need to do things, the less emotionally involved we are in "Life" we have become.
The "What happened to my keys?" part is that we have lost the art of flirting and enticing. The whole point of flirting is to entice the other person to want to be with you. And to make yourseself so fantastic to be with, that you never want to be with anyone else. It seems that the art of seduction and mystery has been replaced with wham, bam, thank you ma'am. And if the Wham Bam wasn't exciting enough, then you become rude and self absorbed.The The longest relationships, I have noticed, didn't start out by a hook-up, one night stand, and definately not after only 5 minutes of talk before engaging in sex. I have seen M/s, D/s relationships that have lasted for years because the time was given for an emoptional bond to develope and a need to be instilled in each other for each other. I may be going againstg a title wave of opinion on this but that is the truth of the state of relationships today. It is what it is. Which isa pretty awful.
Well i have talked long enough about this for now. As always, if you like what you read and think someone will to, give them the address. If you think that you and I should talk and maybe get to know one another you can reach me at raven15@consolidated.net. Until next time, have a great week.