Oh My God.....you've got to be kidding

well it has been awhile since I last made an entry. The rush of the holidays and all has left me a bit nonplussed. something happened the other day in the chat room I go to and thought how ironic. I was bemoaning the fact that so many Masters/SIRS and slaves/boys were not real.I notice that when you mention exchanging e-mails or phone numbers they suddenly come up with an excuse to not do it. That was when I SIR ask me to call him and I did. He assured me he was for real and was actively looking for a slave/boy. He also said he wanted one close to his age. That in itself is an anomaly. Most that are 40-60 are looking for 20-40 year-olds. Still I thought maybe.....maybe....this one is for real. After he assured me he was real and that he wasn't in the closet and everyone in his life knew he was gay....I thought great I have found a real SIR. That was short lived however. While talking with him he told me i needed to come visit him for a trail. i thought, ok go for it. after talking with him i searched flights to where he was. got the best price for booking 60 days in advance. when I saw the SIR in the chat room, i pvted him. He assured me it was ok. after initial chat i told him I had lookied into flying to where he was. Suddenly he couldn't do that. Here i thought i had finally met someone that wasn't a FANTASIZER and JO cyberr Hound and he tells me he can't see me and to wait and see. It was terribly deflating and depressing to hear.
We have all grown in our journey to know ourselves. I have done that since the search for a Master began. Many have told me they can tell if they start at the first blog and read them in order that I have grown and am more of myself. A natural born sub/slave/boy. Unfortunately I feel as if i am beating my head against a wall. Everywhere I turn i run into posers, liars and flakes or fakes. How hard is it, if you want a sub/slave/boy, to exchange e-mails and see if you are compatible and get to know each other. Or to exchange IM services and add each other to chat outside the hat room and spend some one on one time with out getting interrupted. You would think i was asking for them to give me a kidney or have their baby. i just don't understand the need for all the deception on the net I guess. i mean that is a forum where you can be yourself and find like-minded individuals. I wanted to find a SIR in 2009 but it looks like I will have to try again in 2010. Well i have said enough. i hope to meet a real SIR someday and he be the one that I NEED, WANT, and LOVE for a LTR. As usual if you have any comments or want to contact me e-mail me at raven15@consolidated.net

Dude! Where's My CAr? ....and What Happened to my Keys?

The past few weeks I have been talking with several Masters and slaves, Doms and subs about a subject that seems to be a source of consternation for all. It is a problem that is prevelant not only in the leather community , but by Society at large. By that, I mean it is in the gay and straight world. I seem to be asked consistently from both gays and straights, " What happened to "courting" before you get involved with someone?". In othere words, where did the art of dating go? It begs the question....Has our need for instant gratification gotten us to rely on sex rather than emotions as to who we end up with? Used to, when someone was interested in someone that they met they would talk first and maybe exchange numbers. Then after several phone calls, a rendezvous was set up at a public place and the two would go on a "Date". Parting afterwards usually at the rendezvous point. Then it would progress to someone being picked up at their home and taken on a date by the dominate interested party. Sometimes dutch treat , sometimes not. After a few of those"dates" then you would think about having sex. It was usually wonderful and exciting as it could possibly be because you had some anticipation and mystery about it. It also had some meaning to the act.
With the advent of the Internet and with our incessant need for instant gratification we seem to think that the proverbial "Hookup" for sex after 5 minutes of talk will be the determining factor in whether a relationship developes. It isn't the fact of honesty in the dating process of telling whether it will work or not and telling the other person that you just want to be friends and help each other find mates ,that is obsolete. A relationship based on 5 minutes of talk and one roll in the hay, is doomed from the start. Unless, of course, you are a robot and have no emotions. Sex meant the commitment to see where the relationship goes and the bond of emotions come in. Learning about someone first and be a continued process as time goes by. I guess it was inevitable that as the faster we seem to go and the more we seem to need to do things, the less emotionally involved we are in "Life" we have become.
The "What happened to my keys?" part is that we have lost the art of flirting and enticing. The whole point of flirting is to entice the other person to want to be with you. And to make yourseself so fantastic to be with, that you never want to be with anyone else. It seems that the art of seduction and mystery has been replaced with wham, bam, thank you ma'am. And if the Wham Bam wasn't exciting enough, then you become rude and self absorbed.The The longest relationships, I have noticed, didn't start out by a hook-up, one night stand, and definately not after only 5 minutes of talk before engaging in sex. I have seen M/s, D/s relationships that have lasted for years because the time was given for an emoptional bond to develope and a need to be instilled in each other for each other. I may be going againstg a title wave of opinion on this but that is the truth of the state of relationships today. It is what it is. Which isa pretty awful.
Well i have talked long enough about this for now. As always, if you like what you read and think someone will to, give them the address. If you think that you and I should talk and maybe get to know one another you can reach me at raven15@consolidated.net. Until next time, have a great week.

There May Be Snow on the Roof, But there is a Fire in the Fireplace

This entry is a little different than those of the past. This entry is more about the gay population in general and not so much the Dom/Master /slave/sub type. This is an entry based on societals view on a very tough subject. Growing Old! Or growing older I should say. Growing older isan't exactly what we live for. I mean it is something that happens to us with out trying. You can't stop the clock as it were. Which begs to question, why all the discrimination against getting older? No where is that discrimination so prevalent as it is in the gay culture. It is as if turning 40 makes you invisible ands you no longer are perceived as having feelings or that you matter anymore. What is even worse, is if you are single. Then you are also perceived as not being sexual anymore or wanting to have sex. You suddenly become an unviable person to have a relationship with. Whether you are a top or a bottom or both, you don't seem worthy of getting any attention form those that you wish to have a LTR with. What astounds me, is that at some point and time the very ones that are discriminating become the discriminated. The younger generations seem to forget that they will also be your age if they make it that far! Age should just be seen as a number and not as the determining factor in whether you have a right to exist and have sex.You are suddenly not allowed to have feelings or any sexual desire. That, we all know, is ridiculous. It amazes me when a Dom shows disinterest or even disgust if a sub a few years older(5-10yrs) shows any interest in them. Sometimes to the point of being rude about it. It is even more amazing to me when a Dom 50+ yrs old won't even consider dating or talking to someone if they are over the age of 35 or 40. When it only makes sense to me to be dating someone with 10-15 yrs of each other. After all, I have said it before and it is worth repeating, what does a 55yr old have in common with a 20yr old. They both have a thing for Britney Spears? If you can't relate to something other than in the bedroom, then it is no wonder that you are single and can't find a Dom or sub. I personally thing that 40 -65 yr olds are more sexy than a 20 yr old. To me being sexy is about the WHOLE person, not just whether or not he looks like a model or has a big dick. I have seen some hot jocks that were in there 50's and 60's. It does give pause to think aboput it the next time you go to a site to try and try to find someone to date. Well as always, I have gone on long enough for now. If you know of anyone that might be interested in the blog then by all means give them the address. If you think we may have something in common and want to get to know me better, you can reach me at raven15@consolidated.net Have a GREAT Day!

Where Is The Orkin Man When You Need Him?

I couldn't believe what I saw in the chat room I visit the other day. There was a guy that came in that was HIV neg and was looking for an HIV poz Dom to infect him. It was brought to my attention that these kind of men are called bug chasers. Here the world is trying to stop the infection rate and mortality rate, and then there is this guy. And he isn't alone, from what I have been told. There are several of them out there that think it would be great to be infected and have HIV. I don't know what they are thinking or their reasons, but the reasons I can come up with are a dead in, in my opinion.
The, its OK and doesn't matter attitude, is what is so appalling. I mean they must think in some wacky way that once they are infected they are free to have sex with anyone and everyone and it doesn't matter if you have safe sex or not. What most of these bug chasing morons seem to forget that there are several strains of HIV out there. Some of which are resistant to the current HIV treatments. I think they think that because of the advances in Medical science , it is a manageable disease like diabetes. While there have been allot of advances made in the treatment of HIV they all lead to the same ending- a shortened life span and death. There are some strains out there that will kill you in 3 months if untreated and even then you only have about 2yrs maybe with treatment. I don't call that a manageable disease. I can only imagine that these bug chasers are on a suicide mission. They must want to die but think this will be the best way because they think the stigmatism of suicide is greater than the stigmatism of dying from AIDS. Either way it means cutting your life short and you are still committing suicide. Maybe they think that at least this way if a cure comes along they don't have to take responsibility for their actions in getting the disease. I am at a loss.
There is only one other reason I can think someone would want to get infected. The non-response ability for one's self that can go along with being infected. What I am talking about is the ability to get public assistance. Government housing, food stamps, SSDI(if they have worked long enough) or SSI, and health care(Medicare/Medicaid. There is an attitude among many young people these days that they are to be kept for simply existing. BS! They need to grow up and be a man and take responsibility for ones self. If they are looking for the easiest way to live, then they have joined all of mankind since creation in that effort. We would all like to find an easier way to live and is a constant goal of man kind.
Well I have ranted on long enough. If you know of someone that would like to read this blog, then by all means give them the address. If you like what I have written and want to contact me, as always you can e-mail me at Raven15@consolidated.net. Have a great day and be blessed throughout your own life.

A Mark, A Yen, A Buck, or a Pound is All That Makes The World go Round! .....yeah RIGHT!

Something recently occurred in the chat room I visit and it has all the Masters and SIRS as well as the slaves and subs talking. What I am talking about are the people that come into a chat room and call themselves "Cash" Masters or slaves. These individuals will take cash to be someones Master or Slave. The thought of this is very disconcerting. In my opinion, these are the new bloodsuckers and despots. They prey on people that for some reason are desperate for another person to love and to be with. I know there are people that will pay for sex but come on. Giving money to someone half way across the world and that you never REALLY touch or serve, seems a bit preposterous. While doing this it makes one feel sad for the person paying for this "phone or cam" sex. And the person taking advantage of another's desperation and getting money says allot about the character of that person. Is this the new evolution of relationships? When do we as a society say enough! These "Cash" Masters and slaves are very self-centered and egotistical in nature. And they come across as lazy individuals that think they should be given everything they want just for existing. Please! You have to EARN respect, money, and social status, not buy it , which is what seems to be the case with these individuals. Their Ego is only exceeded by their arrogance in thinking that they are so grand that it should be a privilege to pay them! What a CROCK! Everyone knows of individuals that are like this and tend to avoid them. well that is all I am going to say for now on the subject. If you think someone else might enjoy this blog, be sure and send the address to a friend or if you want to contact me you can. My e-mail is raven15@consolidated.net have a GREAT Day!

Name it and I'll Tell You What To Feed IT

Tghere has been alot of talk about the game players and all on the net. I have spoken with several Masters and slaves about this very thing. They are to the point where they aren't looking anymore because they fveel no one knos what a relationship is. I think they may have a point. I think that many Masters and slaves both don't know what that is. I have to say a Master that I know of said it best. A relationshiop is about building something together for you both to enjoy with each other. The sex should be secondary. Unfortunately our society as a whole has made sex the focal point and definition(wrongly so)of a relationship. I have always said that if Sex was what makes and defines a relationship, then I could have a deep and meaningful relationship with the produce section of my local grocery store!I mean let's face it. Sex doesn't require any thought or effort to have. You don't even have to have an emotional connection with the other person. a relationship on the other hand takes effort and work. It is about sharing and paying the bills and living the way BOTH Master and slave or sub wants to live. You have to share a common goal and be willing to work for it. Unfortunattely in our self gratification NOW Society, that point has been lost. The generation gap is taking it's toll. anyone 40 or younger usually doesn't know what it means to be involved with someone. The key word is involved. Involved in more than sex but involved in the other person's life. so when a Dom or Master fo 50+ wants a sub 18-35 depending on the mautrity leve, they will get someone that thinks that a relationship is about sex. they seem to think that they will have sex with someone and see igf they are worthwhile to be with. That isn't they way to have a lasting asnd true relationship. It takes several chats and pkone calls to get to know a person before you are willing to meet and have sex. If you think that sex is what a relationship is, then you must think life is supposed to be az 24/7 porn flick! This is why a relationship with someone close to your age is best. You have something in common growing up and can talk to each other , other than saying "Fuck me SIR".You don't run when the first time things get tough or the two must make sacrifice and compromise . well that is all I am going to say for now. But it is something, whether you are str8 or gay, to think about. I have been on my soapbox enough. weell as always, if you like what I have said or you have read all the entries and have an idea about what I am like and want to contact me you can. the address is raven15@consolidated.net or hit me up in the chat room.

The Fear Factor......and I don't mean the game!

Well since the last time I wrote I have had time to reflect on a few other things that seem to prevail in the gay community. As well as the BDSM subculture of the gay community. I have come to realize that fear plays an indelible role in the gay experience. First there is the fear of being exposed as being gay. That can weigh heavily on an individual depending on their circumstances. The fear of rejection, which is universally felt by both straights and gays and is ten fold for a young gay teen. Once this fear has been put to rest, and for many that may take years, they then must deal with finding others that are gay. The fear of approaching the wrong person about it can be fatal if not destructive if it doesn't go well. That of course is the worse case scenario. Approaching someone that may be straight and homophobic could be a real problem. Once this fear is conquered, the fear and risk of getting your heart broken and hurt increases expotentually. That fear is then a thousand fold for someone that has had their heart broken once before. For the BDSM community it is a real fear given the emotional wall that many participants put up in the relationship from the start. The fear of being passed over or discarded like the trash seems to be a new reality within the BDSM community. Given that there is so much potentail fear in getting involved in a relationship, it is cause to wonder "Could our own perceived fears be what is holding the majority of gays from being in a happy healthy relationship?". Whether it is vanilla or BDSM? I think that perhaps it does. We have also had a new fear to add to the equation. The fear that for one to be gay it means an endless line of meaningless encounters and a life of dispare and depression. I think that it is up to the individual, but that that individual must have the proper tools to navigate this complex subject for both straights and gays. Our perceived fears are often worsethan the reality. If we can realize that, then we have a chance to grow and be happy. That being said, as always, if you have a comment or want to get in touch with me e-mail me at raven15@consolidated.net

Is there an Invisible Wall and what about Dorian Grey

Well it has been quite awhile since i have written anything. I had allot going on. But I am back and thought i would write about something that I have already touched on, but needs to be said again. It is the Dorian Grey affect. You remember Dorian Grey. He was the man that sold is soul to the devil to stay young. He had a portrait of himself and instead of aging, the portrait aged. I think that if that was available, may gays would definitely sign up for it. I know that our society is obsessed with youth, but never is it so worshipped, as i call it, as it is in the gay world or community. It is amazing to me the lengths that some people will go to stay youthful looking, knowing that it won't matter because the minute you tell someone your age and it is over forty, you done for. The Dom/sub/Daddy/boy/Master/slave relationship is fraught with this youth obsession. From both sides , it is a coveted thing to possess. Doms/Masters/Daddies are always on the prowl for a sub that is 18-30 when they are in their 50's and 60's. and the same goes for the sub/boy/slave. They want a Dom that l;ooks like he stepped out of a porno and isn't more than 45 at the most. Then these same people that won't consider anyone close to their age, wonder why their relationships don't work out. Could it be because they are both from so far opposite sides of the compatibility spectrum that they are doomed to a short lived if ever existing relationship? I mean, lets face it. What does a twenty year old have in common with a 50 or 60 year old, other than being opposite roles when having sex. I mean how close can you get to someone that you don't have any similair interests other than sex. Don't get me wrong, wi i love sex, but, it isn't anything to base a relationship on. This dynamic allows each party to function without having to have any feelings for the person and including them as part of themselves oir their "family" as it were. That brings me to the other topic in the title. The invisible wall. I don't know who wants that wall there more, the Dom or the sub. Perhaps it is there so that neither partner has to get to know the other person which would make them care for the person as a person as opposed to an object of gratification without feelings. I think this may be something that should be explored more closely. I mean, as long as that wall is there then you don't have to become vunerable or have to feel anything for the other person. That, in turn, leads the person to believe that the other doesn't have any feelings for them beyond their mutual sexual satisfaction. Since when is it healthy to have a relationship almost completely void of feelings between the two individuals. If this is what is behind this, then we need to re-examine our priorities as they relate to ourselves. i know that I don't want that kind of relationship and most wouldn't either. Or so they profess to the world that they don't but enter into one over and over again. i personally think that men 40-60 are very very sexy. This isn't because I am 45 but I have always been attracted to them since I was younger. But not just sexually but mentally. The ability to talk about a subject that they are familair with and that I love is very important to me. I also want to be able to talk to them about things that I am familair with and they love. Let's face it, if the only place that you and the other person have in common is the bed, then you could have a real meaningful relationship with the produce department at your local grocery store. Well i have ranted long enough. I may touch on this subject again but enough is enough for now. As usual, if you have a comment or think you might want to get to know me bettter you can e-mail me at raven15@consolidated.net. Until next, Have a GREAT Day!

Mirror, Mirror OnThe Wall...........It's not Your Reflection, Not Yours at All

Well I have to talk about something that I think is overlooked. An incident happened today that I will tell you about and you can tell me what you think. I know a Master and his slave/boy, they have an open relationship which I knew about and don't care one way or another. However, the boy was in a chat room and acting to be honest, slutty. While i don't care about their open relationship i do care about the Master. He is a very good friend and for me friends are also family. I pvted the Master to ask him if he was seeing how his boy was acting. Knowing full well he would tell his boy about the inquirery. The reason that I pvt the Master to ask this is because a slave or boy is a reflection of the Master. The Master, in this case, is known to have a very good reputation and a classy one at that. He is known for his integrity, honesty, and classy character. i didn't want that to get sullied by his boy acting so badly. Slaves need to realize that they are the reflection of their Masters. I guess in an OldGaurd sense, i was looking out for the Master.i think that it is the way it was a long time ago in the old gaurd way of looking out for each other and helping each other. Since a slave is a reflection of his Master, then a slave's reflection is his and also his Master's. So if a boy is acting out of character then it is assumed that it is ok with the Master and his character may come into question. i was concerned about that in this case as i consider the Master a great and good friend. I didn't want the reflection that was being given off to be a reflection on him. of course the boy went off when he found out and called me everything but a whiteman. it seemed to upset him so that it is cause to wonder.......Did he realize how he looked and was ashamed. Who knows. you know what they say about a guilty conscience. well i was not trying to start anything by pvting the Master s i was just making him aware of the situation so he could decide if it was appropriat or not. If i offended either one of them I am sorry to have done that. i didn't mean to cause any harm. Wello that is all for now working on something for a new entry. if you hae an idea for one or any comments you can send them to raven15@consolidated.net

You Did That on Purpose.......Which is a Good Thing!

There seems to be some confusion on what it means to be a Master or slave. Through my recent discussions with both, it seems to be a source of consternation. People often associate the word Master and slave with how a person likes to have sex. While that is certainly part of it, it isn't the whole of it. When people think of the word Master, they immediately think of a dominate personality trait that defines them. That can be dangerous to assume such. There are some people that are very submissive in their career, yet when they come home they become very dominant and agressive. The same can be said of slaves. They can be very dominate and agressive in their careers, but become 100% submissive once they are at home. I don't know how many times i have heard of slaves going home with Masters and once they got home they became the submissive to the shock of the slave. And Vice versa from what I have been told. Being gay, we learn from an early age to hide our true selves for fear of rejection or violence. Sometimes that becomes an intergral part of us, to our detriment. I think this is where the gamers come in. They have a hard time being honest with themselves. But that is another subject for a different entry. In order to define if someone is a slave or a Master you must not only look at the word but at what purpose it conveys. The Purpose of a Master is to be served and pleased however he determines that should happen. He also has a Purpose of taking care of another human beings wellfare-ie: His slave.He is also to be giving. By that I mean that he should give the right amount of dominence that a slave needs and wants so that their is a Mutual exchange of needs and wants. That isn't to say that a Master can't be all about himself. There are some slaves that want a Master that is all about himself and enjoy that. however as i said, the Master's purpose is also the slave's wellfare. That means that while a slave may turn over his paycheck to his Master, the Master has an obligation to put what is left after his half of bills and expenses into a savings account for the slave so that they will have a nest egg should something happen. To many times i have seen Masters that want their slaves to work and give them their money to support the Master in a lifestyle he wants to be used to with little or no regard for the slave and his future. That is terribly wrong and isn't the purpose of the Master.
The same can be said of the slave. If you look at the word slave in the dictionary is says "{ a person that is owned as property by another human being.}" While that is a good definition it isn't stating the purpose. The purpose should aslo be included in the definition. The purpose would be to serve and please his Master in a way that the Master wants. That can be sexually as well as domestically, which is usually the case. With that in mind both the slave and Master should do these things 100% and with maturity.A slave should want to serve and please his Master because they enjoy making others happy and get sa sense of pride in that accomplishment. The purpose of a slave is also not to be a burden to his Master. Which means that he should be ready, willing, and able to help with the expenses of the household. That can mean working or having a source of income. Whether it is a trust find, disability check or 401k. the slave is to make a Masters life easier. I think if everyone went by the Purpose as a definition, there would be alot less of the B.S. that is played out in the rooms. The next question is how far are you , as a slave or Master, willing to go to be in that kind of relationship. That is cause for another entry. That being said, as usual if you have a comment or a subject you want to address send it to Raven15@consolidated.net That is also how a Master that is interested in me can get in touch with me. Have a great day!

Bitter Bater.....And the Masters and slaves that make it.

I seems that I have come to some observations about some of the Masters and slaves in the rooms that hasn't gone unnoticed by others. There seems to a sense of bitterness in the chat rooms from some individuals. These individuals seem to think that because someone feels they aren't right for each other and doesn't take them up on their offer, then they aren't real and are fake. Because of this rejection, they become bitter and espouse that in their demeanor in the chat rooms. The problem lies in learning from their experience and growing from it. We as human beings are always changing. Sometimes for the better and sometimes not, depending on the idividual's adaptability. It is not learning to grow as a human being that causes the conflict that can lead to bitterness.
The main cause of this bitterness seems to be whether a person is Quote"real" or not. Meaning, are they a real Master or a real slave. One of the qualifiers it seems, is whether or not they are going to meet. i have to admit that in my past i was unable to meet because of legal and financial reasons. Being from the south, I was too ashamed of myself to admit theses barriers to potential Masters. i found excuses not to meet. However, this has to be said, I have grown and that was the past. For any Masters/SIRs that I offended i am truly sorry. But, that doesn't mean that I am not real or that the Masters/SIRs are perfect. Afterall if they were perfect, as a friend told me, there would be alot of Masters on crosses-----if you get my meaning. Many of the Masters that I have met online after one chat seem to think you are instantly theirs and that you are to come clear across country on their say so in the least few days after the conversation as possible. Like the next day. While things have changed in my life and am now more able to meet with Masters, I still want to chat a few times before setting up a meeting. While i can't meet across country due to the fact I only get 2 days off a week, I can meet someone for two days or a weekend with in driving distance-Houston,San Antonio, Austin, Tyler, and the Dallas/Ft.Worth area. i will have to leave the farther meetings until i go on vacation. But I have digressed.
It has come to the attention of my friends and others that the bitter Masters and slaves are the ones that have been rejected several times over the years. Many times one needs only to look at the pool of people that you are offering yourself to, to find the reason. I mean the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over agian and expecting different results. If you are an older Master or slave, by that i mean 60+, and you are constantly offering to be with 20 somethings then you need to take a step back and think about reality itself. Think about it if you are 20 and the other person is 60+ then it would be like being with your grandfather. How many times did you at that age really want to be with your grandparents? so of course in those instances Masters and slaves will be rejected by the younger person. Like the old saying goes, don't go barking up the wrong tree. I myself fine that Masters 40-60 very sexy and have no problem being with them. My excursions into Houston over the last couple of years will testify to that. I have also noticed that the Masters and slaves that seem to be bitter about not finding anyone to meet or that is "real" are just as guilty of doing what they say they dispise in the other person. Psychologist call that diflection. Meaning deflect what it is that you do onto someone else and get the attention away from yourself. So one must think about themselves and their own track reacord before going off on someone or in the room spreading negativity and bitterness that is uncalled for. No one likes to hear it in the chat rooms and besides, the one spouting off usually comes across as arrogant and with something to hide. Ok enough. The bottom line is that people change and we as humans must learn to change or there isn't any growth as a human being. It is when we evolve into ourselves and become whole and our own do we really have what it takes to be in a relationship whether it is a BDSM one or a vanilla one. With that being said, as always i welcome any comments and can be e-mailed to raven15@consolidated.net

Oh Really?..........Hide and Watch!

Well the new year has begun and my search continues for the Master i need, want, and was meant to be. It hasn't been east, this search. A lot a fakes, players and bullshit. One of the things that makes it so difficult is that I am in a small east texas town and didn't have the means to travel. That has all changed with the beginning of the new year. I will be able to travel and get to bigger cities and expand the search to real time as well as the nety. This will be an exciting year. I plan on finding my Master this year. I know that I will I just have to have faith and be patient. i know there is a very dom agressive top Master out there thatis just waiting on me to meet them. now I will have the means to do so, at least in Texas. I have a new job with the weekends off. That leaves me time for a trial visit and will hopefully find my Master. Will this entry is just a short one and thought I would put it out there. If you are a Master in Texas and are looking for a sub. total bottom slave for a LTR then by all means e-mail me at Raven15@consolidated.net and if you have an idea for a blog entry you can send it there as well. well everyone have a great year and everything happens for a reason.See ya in the chat rooms!

Happy New Year!!..........Who The Hell Are You?!

Happy New year! Well it is the beginning of a new year and time to turn over a new leaf.....or in our cases(M/S) a new collar and strap. That being said, what I am talking about is starting off the new year right. The past is the past and we are starting off on a new day, or in this case, a new year. Time to find the Master/Dom or the slave/sub of your dreams this year! Many will be trying to do just that here on the WEB in the various Leather/Discipline chat rooms. But, There is a problem that has been brought to my attention and seems to be a pet peeve of both Masters and slaves. The dreaded chat profile. As i mentioned earlier in another entry, about how one enters a chat room and then says nothing. Yet, they complain that no one talks to them or they ignore it when someone does say Hi. The least you can do is try to increase your odds by having a complete profile. Here are a few of the things that seem to be of importance that is being overlooked by many Masters/Doms and slaves/subs and are a source of irritation to the others on the Net in the chat rooms. No one likes talking to a blank wall. So, put a CURRENT pic of yourself in your profile. It is 2009 and you can get a disposable camera and have it developed on a CD. From there you can download it to your profile. Let's face it, one of the first reasons we talk to aomeone is that they have a look that turns us on. Without a pic on the profile, your look can't turn anyone on and get them to speak to you. A pic opf your body parts isn't what I mean either. The face that we will be looking at for the rest of our live, God fobid the relationship lasts that long, is more important than your appendeges.The other area of concern seems to be the fear or apprehention about stating what you are. I mean, all the pics in the world aren't going to help to know if you are a Master/Dom/Top or a slave/sub/bottom or if you are versatile. You would be surprised how important it is. If someone does want to say hi to you and you are a Master/dom then those that aren't will know how to address you properly in the room in front of the others that are there. This is very important to many in the chat rooms. Which brings us to the other half of the equation, stating what you are looking for.Not only stating what you are, Master/Dom, but what you are looking for. Another Master? a Dom slave? what? Then it would be helpful to know why it is that you want when you find what you are looking for. Are you looking for cyber? Don't get me wrong, that is perfectly fine but it would be helpful to know that in advance so that you can get to it and not waste time talking and trying to get to know the person. If you are looking for a hook-up NSA then say so in your profile. There is nothing wrong with that either. It helps so as to not get up any expectaions of developing a friendship or relationship on the part of a party that is really looking for a long term relationship. It is called being honest about yourselve and respecting others and their feelings as well. If you are there to have a real relationship then by all means say so. We seem to have the art of making a laundry list of expectations- that are not based in reality. Reality is you have to live in the world. If you are looking for a LTR with someone you need to state that you are willing to do your part and contribute to the household (reality). Helping to maintain it and help with the bills. No one gets a free ride. Especially if you are in a REAL relationship-Leather, vanilla, gay or straight. It would also help if there was something in your profile that said you are relocatable or willing to move or willing to help out with the move. These have been a few of the comments that I have heard in the Leather/Discipline rooms that I visit among both Masters and slaves. This give pause for one to think about it in the next coming year. If one is truly set to find that Master/Dom or slave/sub then please by all means have a complete profile. Well I think that you get the idea. How can anyone know if they want to chat with someone when they know nothing about them but maybe where they are at or an age.That is another thing, put your real age down. Well I have ranted and raved long enough. That being said, you can check out my profile on recon.com. the ID is the same as here-yourwillbedone. As always, if you have any questions or comments you can e-mail me at raven15@consolidated.net. I would love to hear from you, especially if you are a Master/Dom/Top! Have a GREAT DAY and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!