Bitter Bater.....And the Masters and slaves that make it.

I seems that I have come to some observations about some of the Masters and slaves in the rooms that hasn't gone unnoticed by others. There seems to a sense of bitterness in the chat rooms from some individuals. These individuals seem to think that because someone feels they aren't right for each other and doesn't take them up on their offer, then they aren't real and are fake. Because of this rejection, they become bitter and espouse that in their demeanor in the chat rooms. The problem lies in learning from their experience and growing from it. We as human beings are always changing. Sometimes for the better and sometimes not, depending on the idividual's adaptability. It is not learning to grow as a human being that causes the conflict that can lead to bitterness.
The main cause of this bitterness seems to be whether a person is Quote"real" or not. Meaning, are they a real Master or a real slave. One of the qualifiers it seems, is whether or not they are going to meet. i have to admit that in my past i was unable to meet because of legal and financial reasons. Being from the south, I was too ashamed of myself to admit theses barriers to potential Masters. i found excuses not to meet. However, this has to be said, I have grown and that was the past. For any Masters/SIRs that I offended i am truly sorry. But, that doesn't mean that I am not real or that the Masters/SIRs are perfect. Afterall if they were perfect, as a friend told me, there would be alot of Masters on crosses-----if you get my meaning. Many of the Masters that I have met online after one chat seem to think you are instantly theirs and that you are to come clear across country on their say so in the least few days after the conversation as possible. Like the next day. While things have changed in my life and am now more able to meet with Masters, I still want to chat a few times before setting up a meeting. While i can't meet across country due to the fact I only get 2 days off a week, I can meet someone for two days or a weekend with in driving distance-Houston,San Antonio, Austin, Tyler, and the Dallas/Ft.Worth area. i will have to leave the farther meetings until i go on vacation. But I have digressed.
It has come to the attention of my friends and others that the bitter Masters and slaves are the ones that have been rejected several times over the years. Many times one needs only to look at the pool of people that you are offering yourself to, to find the reason. I mean the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over agian and expecting different results. If you are an older Master or slave, by that i mean 60+, and you are constantly offering to be with 20 somethings then you need to take a step back and think about reality itself. Think about it if you are 20 and the other person is 60+ then it would be like being with your grandfather. How many times did you at that age really want to be with your grandparents? so of course in those instances Masters and slaves will be rejected by the younger person. Like the old saying goes, don't go barking up the wrong tree. I myself fine that Masters 40-60 very sexy and have no problem being with them. My excursions into Houston over the last couple of years will testify to that. I have also noticed that the Masters and slaves that seem to be bitter about not finding anyone to meet or that is "real" are just as guilty of doing what they say they dispise in the other person. Psychologist call that diflection. Meaning deflect what it is that you do onto someone else and get the attention away from yourself. So one must think about themselves and their own track reacord before going off on someone or in the room spreading negativity and bitterness that is uncalled for. No one likes to hear it in the chat rooms and besides, the one spouting off usually comes across as arrogant and with something to hide. Ok enough. The bottom line is that people change and we as humans must learn to change or there isn't any growth as a human being. It is when we evolve into ourselves and become whole and our own do we really have what it takes to be in a relationship whether it is a BDSM one or a vanilla one. With that being said, as always i welcome any comments and can be e-mailed to raven15@consolidated.net