What Time Is It?......Well It Aint Howdy Doody Time!

Well it has been awhile since my last post and thought it was time to update you on how the search is going for a Master. Back in January I posted that I had found my Master.....or so I thought. It seemed that things didn't work out. I know in part because of the difficulty that is inevitable when it is a long distance one. There is something to be said about that. I am a student and on a very limited income and cannot just drive 350 miles and afford the gas that it takes for a full size truck every weekend. He on the other hand had said me made over 100k a year and lived in an old house that was changed into a duplex and couldn't help with the gas to get there to serve him and for his benefit. But other then that there was the fact that this was a bit of a one sided affair. You See when the only time that you speak to your slave is at 6 a.m. when you get a wake up call and then it is "to day you are in a hurry to get in the shower," then you aren't giving any time to your slave. Now I know there are those out there that think a slave should be grateful for any bit of time that they receive from their Master, but contrary to popular belief, slavery is only as real as the participants make it. So that means there has to be a little give and take for it to work. When the 6 a.m. wake up call is the only time that you speak to your slave, then how is he to get instructions on what will be expected of him when he arrives for full time use? then there is the fact that when I drove down there, he was too busy with his social schedule to give any training or instruction on how to serve him. This has made me realize that there is allot of work, time, and effort put in by both the Master AND the slave to make it work. If your social calender is so booked that you have no time for a slave, then you don't need one. If your obligations, whether they are family or work or so demanding that they take up your time, then you don't need a slave. One has to be prepared to take on another human being into the fabric of their life in order for it to work. So once again it seems that I am on the search for a Master. One that can give the time and effort it takes to make a M/s relationship work. I was giving it but he didn't have time to take it. So if you want to gt in touch with me or you are a Master looking for a good slave you can as always reach me at raven15@consolidated.net Everyone have a great day and happy hunting!

The Proof Is In The Pudding.......So What Makes A Good Master?

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Pride, Respect, and Dignity Go Before a Fall.........But Only If You Are Tripped

I was intrigued with a conversation that was being had in one of the leather chat rooms that I frequent. It was about the issue of pride, dignity, and respect in the Master/slave relationship. Everyone agreed that a Master needs to have all three. Pride in the fact that they have a man that is willing to serve them and that they can take care of a slave to the point of wanting to serve him. Dignity in the way that he treats his slave and the way the slave treats him. The Dignity that comes with the fact that another man wants them enough to serve them as their slave. And Respect of other Masters for this ability as well as the respect that a slave gives to a Master. But what was terribly at issue was whether or not the slave deserved or should have the same three. Which begs the question: Can you have a healthy Master/slave relationship if it is not a two way street? Pride can be something of a devil at issue. Some say that a slave should not have pride. I disagree with that. I think a slave should have pride in who he is as a slave and be proud to have a Master to serve. There is a fine line between pride and arrogance. It is when either the Master or the slave crosses that line when things can go awry and not be healthy. There is also dignity in serving another human being which is the reason for the pride. Being a slave is not something to be ashamed of or think that it makes you a lesser man. In fact it make you more of a man to have the courage to do so and serve another man. The dignity that another man wants you to be their slave is an honor in and of itself. The last one seems to be the tricky one for some. Many say that a slave does not deserve any respect. It is a shame that they feel that way. A slave should be respected because they could very well not choose to be a slave. It takes allot of inner peace and self-esteem to be able to be a slave. Some of the most unhealthy Master/slave relationships are the ones in which the slave has no self-esteem, respect for themselves, or dignity in being what they are. Masters that belittle their slaves all the time and show no respect for another human being are simply put, Masters that do not have their own self-esteem intacted themselves and find it necessary to put down and keep down those around them. There can be a lot of psychological damage done to the slave in a situation like the one I just described. Damage that can spill over outside of the Master/slave relationship. Masters and slaves should each have pride in what they are and their ability to read each other enough to anticipate what the other is wanting and needing. They should each have Dignity in that they think nothing less of the other and that they deserve each other. And lastly, Respect of one another. Respect for the sacrifices that each make in order to have their right healthy Master/slave relationship. Without these, the relationship will not last and either the Master will get bored with the slave or slave will start to harbor resentments towards the Master to the point that neither is happy and will dissolve the relationship. I have known of healthy Master/slave relationships that have lasted for several years, 20 or 30 years to be exact. They all had one thing in common. Both Master and slave had pride, dignity, and respect for each other that turned into an everlasting love for one another. So it is possible and desired by most Masters and slaves. Well I have rattled on long enough. As usual if you have a comment or question about any of the entries, feel free to e-mail me at raven15@consolidated.net I look forward to hearing from you! Bye for now.

Sign On The Dotted Line.....Or Not

Hello Everyone. It hasn't been long since my last posting but something came up that I had to write about. Master/slave Contracts. It seems that they caused a bit of a stir in one of the chat rooms that I frequent. Some are for them and others are not. Some use them and require them before they will take on a Master or a slave. The one thing we can all agree upon is that they are not legally recognized in any civilized country. I say that because believe it or not slavery does still exist in some third world countries. So, if they are legally recognized it begs the question, why use them at all? Well just so that there is an understanding, the contract is only as valid as the extent participants give credence to them. However, it is my belief that they can be useful tools and enhance the Master/slave relationship. Let's face it, we have been taught to believe that we must honor contracts or there are consequences. Granted, there really is no consequence to not honoring a Master/slave contract since they aren't enforceable., but surely there would be bad feelings on the participants. Since we are taught to honor our contracts we make with people, it is a useful psychological tool for a Master to use. Psychological reinforcement is a strong measure that a Master can use for some control. Provided, of course, if the slave believes in honor and commitment. The same can be said for a Master. Either party can back out at any time. However, a contract can be a great tool in the negotiation of what is expected from both the Master and the slave. Things such as to what happens if something should, God forbid, happen to the other person. Will a slave work outside the home? What about assets that the slave has and is bringing into the relationship? What about inheritance, or if one should get seriously ill? How the money is handled as well as property? these are the things that can make a contract useful in the Master/slave relationship. There are however some documents that are legally binding. Especially if a slave gives a Master Power of Attorney. Then there are some legal responsibilities that must be adhered to. Whether or not you use one or require one is up to the individual Master.But I think that for some slaves it gives them a sense of comfort to know that everything is spelled out and nothing is going to happen to them that they don't already know is going to happen.I personally like to think that it is a good thing and will have one with my Master when the time comes for me to join him. Well that is all I am going to say about that. As usual if you want to leave a comment it is welcomed and if you want to get in touch with me my e-mail is raven15@consolidated.net Have a wonderful day!

Through The Looking Glass.....And The Shattered Image

It seems there was some discussion in one of the leather chat rooms that I visit about if a sub is a real slave or not if he finds a Master that likes dto do to him what he likes done to him. Some say that that makes them a sub and not a real slave. But let's face it. You would not have gotten together if there was not some mutual ground. Whether you are a slave or a Master, we look for the people that can fullfill our desires, wants, and needs. One would hope that along the way there would be some love involved as well. As to whether they are real or not depends alot on how far you are into the M/s lifestyle. I mean, how real is it if the first time you chat with a Master they expect you to drop everything and move in with them. To me, that constitutes someone that is into the fantsy of it and will never really have the reality of what it means to be a Master. And any slave that does move in after the first chat, is also living in a fantsy. Becoming a slave is not something that you take lightly. It takes alot of self dicipline, and love of yourself to want to make a committment to another person. Once that committment is made, then it should be made whole heartedly and not half-assed so to speak. Some say that a real slave is one that will take whatever abuse that the Master doles out and do whatever a Master tells them to do. Well to a certain extent that is true, but not if it is something that is unhealthy, not in the best interest of the slave, or illegal. I mean afterall, would a Master let a slave do to them whatever the slave wanted to do to them? Slavery is afterall a form of expression. The expression of love, committment, and importantly trust. The trust that the Master will not do anything to permanently harm them and that He will do everything to guide him for the best thing that is right for him. This means taking care of the slave. Something which alot of Masters take lightly. The reality of being a Master is a huge responsibility. You have another human being that is looking at you for guidence and to take care of them, just as a Master is looking for the slave to take care of him as well. The subject of money, property, what the expectaion of what is to happen if either is ill or dies should be discussed well in advance of becoming Master and slave. They say that M/s relationships are only short term, but I think they can be long term if the chemistry is right. I have known of a Master and slave that have been together for 30yrs. Each loves the other for what they are and the gift of slavery they are experiencing as Master and slave. There are certainly different levels of reality in the lifestyle of Master and slave. The level that you are at depends on how far into it you are and the satifactory level of pleasure that you are getting. For some that means the extreme 24/7, in public and out of public. For others the simple act of role play in the bedroom is as far as they intend to go. That brings me to something that I have heard about and that is the underground slavery. Some say it is just a rumor and someone's fantasy of existence and others say they have seen it. This is where someone disappears and is kept secretly in bondage and never excapes. The evidence seems to lean toward that it is true and does exist. Afterall the incident of the man that kept a girl for 18yrs as his slave shows that it is possible. If, in fact, it does exist, they have done a good job of keepping it secret and hard to get into. So I guess all this is to say that Slavery and a Real slave or Real Master is all relevant to the people involved. What it means to each one and one another is between the Master and slave. One can only hope to find the Master or slave that believes in the same level of slavery that is desired. And on that note, I will loeve you and say that if you have any comment I welcome that and you can contact me at raven15@consolidated.net or leave one here on the blog.

A Picture is Worth A Thousand Words...........So Why Are You Mute?

The say that a picture is worth a thousand words. Evidently there are allot of people that still don't believe that! I was in one of the chat rooms and subject turned to the ever so popular profiles out there and how you can tell if they are real or not. I know that there will be people that will disagree with me on this but here it goes. I noticed the other day several people were bemoaning the fact that they were confused by the various profiles in the chat and whether they were real.Well all I can say is this. If you are looking for a Master or a slave then you need to fill out the profile. and NOT just the basics. There nothing more frustrating then clicking on a profile because the name or handle sounds like someone you'd be interested in to find it blank. Now I'm not talking about totally blank, but all that is there is the their name or handle and few basic stats and where they are from. Of course if you are locationally challenged, that may be all that you need to know. However, for those that are serious about Long Term Relationships, then distance isn't really a factor. The profile is there for you to sell yourself basically to the people that you are targeting. Well it begs to question, would you by a car with out ever seeing it? This is the 21st century and it is the easiest thing to upload a photo and fill out the profile. The fact that the profile is blank except for the basic questions that the service asks for tells you allot. It means that this person isn't serious if they can't take the time out to fill one out. After all if you are wanting a relationship then you need to do all that you can to find one. Including filling out the profile. I mean, when you click on some one's name cause they have piqued your curiosity, you want to know if you are compatible. Is he looking for the same things you are? What does he do for a living? what are his hobbies and are you interested in the same ones? how would you know when the profile is blank? And most importantly in the leather community. Does he want to do to you or have done to him ,what you are looking for in the sexual are of a relationship. The photo is important to! Now I understand there are parts of the country where if you are gay it is still a major thing and if you are in a high position then you don't want a pic out there to tell all and out yourself. But by the same token, How are we as a gay community supposed to let our fellow brothers and sisters know that it is OK to be gay and that you can be whatever you want to be if we aren't brave and courageous and put a photo in a profile, leather site or regular, that will show your face? or the least you can do is have a picture that you can send after you have chatted. it isn't that hard to do and if you are real then you are going to have to show your face to even have the relationship. what I find funny though is the fact that those that moan and groan the loudest, are the very ones that don't have a profile filled out or a picture. Unfortunately our society is very visual in nature, so a picture is an essential thing. After all, the very thing that draws you to someone is the look they have that you find appealing. A picture is worth a thousand words.....so start talking! I hope I have left you with something to think about and as always, if you have a comment or an idea you would like to see discussed here just e-mail me at raven15@consolidated.net. and happy "profiling"!

Take Off The Glasses.....They're Rose Colored

It seems that there has been allot said in the chat rooms I visit about real and reality.Of course the number one complaint by both the Masters and the slaves is that the other isn't real. I'm not going to get into that issue right now and may at a later date. However, I would like to talk about another REAL issue. The issue of reality. I see it all the time in the advertisements in the chat rooms. " Sub seeks 24/7/365 as a dungeon slave caged, collared, and shackled." or a Master advertising " Wanted 24/7/365 slaved, cbt,tt, flogging, caged, collared, and gagged. will be kept naked.". I'm sure you have come across them as I have. The problem with these ads is that they aren't real. Don't get me wrong, the ads themselves are real but what they are advertising isn't. You see there is the funny thing that gets in the way.....Life! It would be nice if these conditions could actually hold up but they really can't. Unless of course you are a Master Millionaire or a slave trust fund baby, and there are a few. But these are the exceptions to the rule and a rarity. There are things that have to be done. What seems to be advertised is nothing more than a 24hr porno that doesn't exist.. There may be a few who disagree with me, but lets face it, the laundry has to get done, the yard has to be mowed, and you aren't going to be able to do that naked without getting arrested unless you are way out in the country. The bills have to be paid, the groceries have to be bought, and there is the cooking and cleaning and all the mundane things that make up what we call life. Now granted, in some cases a person can strip naked every time they are in the house, but not outside. Even tall fences have their limits. Especially if there is two-story houses around it. So it would seem that the people who put these ads out there, both Masters or slaves, are really just into a fantasy that they probably will jack off to while you chat with them. Thus really making them not real or knowing what it is to be what they say they want to be or what they are.I say that to say this......
Being a slave is work. It isn't a 24hr porno and it isn't just about sex.It is about submission, work, learning, and yes pleasure. If you are a slave you will have domestic duties to complete. That means cleaning, washing , laundry, and grocery shopping. You will be the one to do the cooking unless the Master likes doing it. There will be dusting and vacuuming to do. Then there is the yard work to be done. Mowing, pruning, and planting. Then to top it off You will have to work more than likely. Yes I said the dreaded four letter word. Unless you are with a Master of means or that won the lottery, you will have to work outside the home as well as all that is needed to be done in the home. You will have to pay your share. of course that depends on what your financial arrangements are with the Master Before you even meet.
Being a Master is a bowl of cherries either. I have asked several Masters what it is to be one. They have different takes on it but there is allot of commonality.What I got out of it is that being a master is pleasure yes, but there is teaching to be done, patience to be had, and work. The Master has to teach the slave how he likes things to be. That takes allot of patience on his part. it is really work to dominate and transform a slave into the way that you want. Not to mention that you have to clothe it, feed it, and make sure he is in good health. so a Master just isn't just sitting on easy street either.
A Master/slave relationship can be a wonderful thing. Just make sure you are living in reality when it comes to getting into one. Each person in the relationship must enrich the other so that you are enhancing the lives of both.
Well I have gone on long enough. As always if you have a topic that you would like to see discussed or a comment on the topic that is, write me at raven15@consolidated.net