Happy New Year!!..........Who The Hell Are You?!

Happy New year! Well it is the beginning of a new year and time to turn over a new leaf.....or in our cases(M/S) a new collar and strap. That being said, what I am talking about is starting off the new year right. The past is the past and we are starting off on a new day, or in this case, a new year. Time to find the Master/Dom or the slave/sub of your dreams this year! Many will be trying to do just that here on the WEB in the various Leather/Discipline chat rooms. But, There is a problem that has been brought to my attention and seems to be a pet peeve of both Masters and slaves. The dreaded chat profile. As i mentioned earlier in another entry, about how one enters a chat room and then says nothing. Yet, they complain that no one talks to them or they ignore it when someone does say Hi. The least you can do is try to increase your odds by having a complete profile. Here are a few of the things that seem to be of importance that is being overlooked by many Masters/Doms and slaves/subs and are a source of irritation to the others on the Net in the chat rooms. No one likes talking to a blank wall. So, put a CURRENT pic of yourself in your profile. It is 2009 and you can get a disposable camera and have it developed on a CD. From there you can download it to your profile. Let's face it, one of the first reasons we talk to aomeone is that they have a look that turns us on. Without a pic on the profile, your look can't turn anyone on and get them to speak to you. A pic opf your body parts isn't what I mean either. The face that we will be looking at for the rest of our live, God fobid the relationship lasts that long, is more important than your appendeges.The other area of concern seems to be the fear or apprehention about stating what you are. I mean, all the pics in the world aren't going to help to know if you are a Master/Dom/Top or a slave/sub/bottom or if you are versatile. You would be surprised how important it is. If someone does want to say hi to you and you are a Master/dom then those that aren't will know how to address you properly in the room in front of the others that are there. This is very important to many in the chat rooms. Which brings us to the other half of the equation, stating what you are looking for.Not only stating what you are, Master/Dom, but what you are looking for. Another Master? a Dom slave? what? Then it would be helpful to know why it is that you want when you find what you are looking for. Are you looking for cyber? Don't get me wrong, that is perfectly fine but it would be helpful to know that in advance so that you can get to it and not waste time talking and trying to get to know the person. If you are looking for a hook-up NSA then say so in your profile. There is nothing wrong with that either. It helps so as to not get up any expectaions of developing a friendship or relationship on the part of a party that is really looking for a long term relationship. It is called being honest about yourselve and respecting others and their feelings as well. If you are there to have a real relationship then by all means say so. We seem to have the art of making a laundry list of expectations- that are not based in reality. Reality is you have to live in the world. If you are looking for a LTR with someone you need to state that you are willing to do your part and contribute to the household (reality). Helping to maintain it and help with the bills. No one gets a free ride. Especially if you are in a REAL relationship-Leather, vanilla, gay or straight. It would also help if there was something in your profile that said you are relocatable or willing to move or willing to help out with the move. These have been a few of the comments that I have heard in the Leather/Discipline rooms that I visit among both Masters and slaves. This give pause for one to think about it in the next coming year. If one is truly set to find that Master/Dom or slave/sub then please by all means have a complete profile. Well I think that you get the idea. How can anyone know if they want to chat with someone when they know nothing about them but maybe where they are at or an age.That is another thing, put your real age down. Well I have ranted and raved long enough. That being said, you can check out my profile on recon.com. the ID is the same as here-yourwillbedone. As always, if you have any questions or comments you can e-mail me at raven15@consolidated.net. I would love to hear from you, especially if you are a Master/Dom/Top! Have a GREAT DAY and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!