We Need a Bigger Sash

If life was like the Boy Scouts and gave out patches and badges, then we in the leather community need a bigger Sash to put them on. The last few entries about reality have caused a bit of a stir with the people that I chat with. I therefore, feel the need to expand some on that. The entry that caused a bit more comments was the one called Down The Rabbit Hole. It seems I struck a nerve when I said that a Master or slave could be present but not real. The going through the motions as it were. What I am talking about is that if you are really a Master or a slave you live it and not play at it. Yes there are some realities that have to be dealt with. Certain, concessions or compromises, that must be made to live in the real world. You can't go around in leather chaps and a jockstrap all the time. There is life to be lived, however, even when the leather is off a Master/slave knows who and what they are. It takes alot of courage for those in the gay leather community to be out and about. Well, any leather community really. It takes an inner strength to look deep inside one's self and thoroughly examine themself honestly and objectively. And by doing so, one comes into thier own as a person and a human being. To face yourself and say you are a BDSM Leather man and bravely go out in leather to socialize with other leather men. It is not for the faint of heart for sure.To realize that you are a natural Master or Natural slave and be ok with that is an amazing thing. It takes a certain level of healthy self-esteem and self love.That is why many in the leather community would get the Badge Of Courage for living the life of a Master/slave. That brings me to another badge. The Badge Of Honor. The reality is that if you have done all this work in finding yourself, you owe it to yourself to live an honorable life. To be honest and have integrety so that the next generation of Masters/slaves have someone to look up to and have as a role model. Someone that they can look at and know that the feelings and things that make up who and what they are, are valid. At many leather bars and events, they have contests where the prize is a sash across the chest saying"Leather Master'08" or "slaveboy'08" and we appluad their accomplishment. But how much better and note worthy would it be if the sash said Honest Leather Master or or Honorable slaveboy. Unfortunately, many times these winners are not regulars and get the title by looks alone. If you are involved in the leather community or the local leather bar and know someone that is truely living as a Master/slave go up to them and tell them they need a bigger sash. They may not know what you are referring to, but after you explain you will have a good friend in the end. I know that I have gone on long enough. as always, send your comments to me at reaven15@consolidated.net have a great year ending!