Down the Rabbit Hole!

After talking with Masters and other slaves, I felt compelled to write this entry. It seems that there is alot of concern over the fact that people aren't real. I have touched on this subject before but think I need to go into some detail with this entry. It seems that there are alot of complaints on both sides of the fence about this. Masters/Doms saying that the slaves/boys they talk to aren't real. The slaves/boys claim that the Masters/Doms they talk to aren't real as well. There seems to be a vast difference in opinion of the definition of what is real. Masters claim that the slaves/boys they chat with in the chat rooms just want to cyber or they don't want to meet. They seem to disappear after a Master/Dom mentions coming for a visit. Suddenly, Masters claim that they are suddenly ignored. Slaves claim that they are ignored by Masters when they mention meeting as well. I have seen this happen and agree that there is a significant problem of reality in the leather community. But lets face some facts, anytime you are chatting for the first time and the Dom or Sub says they will be right over or that they want you to come the next day, then they are not living in reality. Getting into a Master/slave relationship is not something that you enter into lightly, as I have said before. There are questions that have to be asked and answered from both parties. Sometimes you can tell the ones that are real and living in reality by the answers that they give. Slaves need to ask what happens if they need a doctor. This becomes really important if the slave is to be 24/7 and not work outside the home.. Who is going to pay for it and take them? What does the slave do if something should happen to the Master. Masters need to know if a slave will still take care of them if they become disabled or get sick with a long recovery. Slaves need to know the same thing and about what will happen should the Master die. What happens to property and assets? Will the slave then be thrown out on the streets with nothing to start over with? Some slave inherit property from family and a Master may want to know what happens to that should the slave die. There are just a few of the questions that need to be asked and answered. From the answers, many times you can tell if the person is real. A REAL Master/dom will have answers that are caring, logical, and given allot of thought. The same can be said of a slave as well. It is in chatting for a few weeks and through telephone calls, can you tell if each party has thought long and hard about this lifechanging decission. It amazes me when a Master wants you to come right over and asks or demands that you do in the first chat you have with them. They are more interested in a fantasy then what is entailed in living the life of a Master/slave. After all is said and done however, reality is Relevant. Depending on your situation, depends on the definition of what is real. It is through thorough communication that each will have an understanding of what is reality for the other person. Then based on that, the decission to meet can be established. Otherwise just as Alice did, you are going through a rabbit hole into wonderland. And everyone knows that Wonderland isn't real or only exists for a fleeting moment in time. Our lives, however, are not fleeting and so it takes time to make the decission to get into a Master/slave relationship. It also takes time to find the right Master/slave match. A bunch of bed hopping isn't the answer. So everyone should take time when looking for the match of a lifetime. That is the real reality of it all.
As usual if you have any comments or are a Master looking for a slave you can contact me at reaven15@consolidated.net