Commitment, Honor, Respect, and Approval

Well I have had some good conversations recently with several Masters/Doms and Slaves/Subs regarding the Aspects of the title for this entry. It seems that on both sides they are finding those four elements-commitment, honor, respect, and approval-lacking in the formation of their relationships. In a way they are all interrelated. I hope to be able to shed some light on them in this entry. Remember though, this is from my own prospective and opinion. It is a matter of steps and growth of the individual, whether a Master/Dom or slave/sub. Each person has to have an inner peace about what and who they are in order to grow as a Master/Dom or slave/sub. Part of that inner peace about one's self, depends greatly on if they feel approval about themself.

The Approval I am talking about is needed on several different levels and aspects in order for the Master/Dom or slave/sub to exist.The biggest obstacle is one of very existence. The approval that it is ok to be gay! Sometimes that approval to be gay can or has to come from an outside source, for example parents, family or friends. Also from the Society at large. Once that level of approval has been met, then one can go onto being what they are: a Master/Dom or slave/sub. However, the most important level of approval to being gay has to do with SELF approval. Once one has accepted and approved of being gay, they can go on and grow as a human being. Without this approval, all the other aspects-commitment,honor, and respect cannot be achieved in any relationship, let alone a Master/slave, Dom/sub one. If one achieves thier inner approval, then they can go on and successfully become a Master/Dom or slave/sub. The next step to win approval, is to approve of being a Master/Dom or Subslave and the lifestyle that it warrants by being one. Of course, in an Utopian society, a Master or slave could be open with thier family and friends about who and what they are. Unfortunately, that isn't the kind we live in and there in lies a major conflict of one's self. It is that conflict that can block a Master/Dom ro slave/sub from reaching a sane, sensual, and satifying relationship. One that will provide the inner peace that makes us be the best human being that we can be.

If all thses levels of approval are met, then one can achieve commitment. There is a saying in the leather community that you have to "Break" or"Break in" a slave before they can be free to serve. I don't necessarily think that is true. I think that, in that case, you aren't so much as breaking in a slave as much as you are forcing him to accept himself and what he is. It goes to self responsibility. If one likes or yearns to be a slave, but thinks that to be one or to be gay means you are mentalll ill, then this is a way out for them. It is the idea that " I wouldn't be a slave or gay if I wasn't forced to be that way or be a slave." It basically becomes a cop out. I think this is why so many Masters/Doms or slaves/subs can't make a true commitment. They haven't achieved inner approval or self acceptence that they are gay. or that they are really a natural born slave. They think about it, fantasize about it, and want to experience it, but deep down they can't accept or approve of it. So they then can't commit to it or the lifestyle it warrants. Once approval has been met and commitment has been met, then the honor and respect will come naturally. This is because a slave/sub or Dom/Master will then realize that there is allot of work at being either of those things. They will have an understanding of what an honor it is to find, out of the whole world, the right Master/Dom or the right slave/sub to have in their life. They will understand the self-respect it takes to be a Master/Dom or slave/sub. I could go on and on about this but will leave it at that for now. As always if you have any questions or comments or are a Master that is interested in me, you can contact me at Raven15@consolidated.net Have a great day!