I Want To Be A ______......Oh Really?

It has been sometime since I have written in the blog and I want to apologize but I have been busy with school and all. I have been in a few chat rooms and have noticed something. No one wants to make a commitment it seems. I think that technology has allot to do with that. As humans we are very social creatures by nature, however, the Internet has been a way to limit that social interaction. With the simple click of a mouse we can connect or disconnect from a conversation with another person. While the Internet has allowed rural gays to connect with other gay men, it has also given rise to not investing anything in and of themselves into a relationship. There is a certain anonymity there that gives way to the idea that being dishonest is OK. What I mean is, with the Internet you can be who or Whatever you want to be. Even if it is a lie. It allows you to be whatever you want that you are not in your everyday life. The fantasy person that you think you would be if things were different in your life. WE, however, live in the real world and not a fantasy world. The problem then becomes what to do when someone wants to meet you in the real world and you can't live up to the fantasy one that you have created. This is very evident in the leather community at large. Some of that has changed with the introduction of the Video chat.That being said, leads me to say this. There are many "wannabes" in the BDSM world and the leather chat rooms are riddled with them. A M/s, D/s relationship takes allot of work like most things in life worth while. Part of that work is stepping up to the plate and being who you say you are and willing to do whatever it takes to achieve the goal you have set out for yourself. It takes a real commitment. With the video chat, it has given way to c2c "training". Which begs to question, How much REAL training can you get from a video chat? Little as far as I am concerned. Part of the slave's job is to know how to touch and respond to a Master's touch. That can never be accomplished through a video. However the advent of the c2c chat has allowed a visual aspect to someone that is still in the fantasy stage of development as a leather or BDSM person. It is basically an enhancement of their masturbatory material. Whether you are a Master/Dom looking for a slave/sub or a slave/sub looking for a Master/Dom. I can't tell you how many times I have heard both Masters and slaves complain that they can't find a real slave or Master. Sometimes it is the unrealistic expectations that they each have that is the problem. It kills me when I was looking for a Master, how many times they wanted me to drop everything and move after less than five minutes of chat-not video chat. Then when you tell them that you want to get to know them first, they say you aren't real. Like it is nothing to decide to be a slave. But by the same token, there a slaves with a skewed view of what it means to be a Master. I'm talking about the ones that are really looking for a sugar daddy and not a Master. They think they can just sit up in the house and do nothing while the Master takes care of them. THAT is ridiculous. There is real life that has to be lived. Unless the Master is a millionaire, I don't see that scenario happening in real life. When the M/s relationship is based on trust , and dare I say it, love-the love of being what you are- then it is a precious thing. well I have chatting long enough about this subject. As always if you have an idea for an entry or want to comment or want to get in touch with me you can at raven15@consolidated.net Thanks for reading and have a great day.