Mother May I?.....And Other Forms of Respect

From the time we are little we have been taught to show respect of others. To older people, to people of authority, and to our parents. So why should it be any different when looking for a Master/Dom? I thought about this when I noticed something in the Leather BDSM chat rooms that I frequent. It was the advertisements that are posted in the chat rooms. They go something like this, "Looking for a Master 24/7 long term pvt to chat" or "submissive slave looking for permanent 24/7 position please pvt me" which I find inherently wrong and disrespectful. It is basically demanding that a Master private you which isn't very submissive in my book. It also conveys the idea that Masters are just sitting around waiting with baited breath for a slave to private. They are forgetting something, it is called the Law of Supply and Demand. In the business world when there is a flood of a specific product on the market, then it has very little value and not worth much. There are about 15 slaves for every Master that is out there. You take out the fakes, liars, and wanker fantasy folk and you still have a bout 5 to every one Master. Which means there are more slaves than there are Masters making them not the hottest thing out there. Therefore demanding to be privated is not the way to go.
Fortunately I have a Master and am not looking at this time, However if I were looking I would do the following. Secure a membership to the website that I wanted to look in. Nothing in life worthwhile is free. So buckle up and show someone you are serious about this and buy a membership to the site. Then the FIRST thing to would to READ THE PROFILES! There is something to be said for not reading a profile first. For one thing, you know that you will be talking to someone that has similar interests. By the same token , you need to fill out the profile for yourself. From the Masters that I have talked with, there is nothing as frustrating as looking at a blank profile when searching for a slave or for a Master for that matter. so that goes for both the Master and the slave. After perusing the profiles and finding a Master that interests you, you should let him know that you are interested. How you do this in the chat room is by addressing them as SIR and asking in the main room if you may private them. Then it is up to Him and the ball is in His court. You NEVER private a Master/Dom without asking permission first. From this first contact the Master will set the parameters for how the two of you will get to know each other and how to proceed. A word of caution should be said here, getting to know someone before you meet them takes time. Allot of chats, e-mails, and telephone calls. If a Master asks you to uproot your life after a five minute talk than you need to take heed.
WEll as always , I invite you to e-mail me with comments or suggestions for a new entry at raven15@consolidated.net Happy Hunting and have a GREAT Day!