Reflections and Real Question

As I said in my last blog, it can sometimes be hard to accept the way that you are and reconcile it with the true core of your being. The same can be said for Masters as well as slaves. Many Masters realize they have a need to control and own a slave, but they too experience the pressures and influences of the society at large. Once again, there is a feeling that being that way means that something is wrong with you and that you are evil and vile. Quite the contrary, there is nothing evil and vile about being a Master when you have made the connection with the right slave. After all, both parties are consensual adults and they are both getting what they need and desire. Being a Master comes with a great responsibility. You have another human being to take care of and hopefully open yourself and heart up to.I think some Masters are afraid of this, especially the opening of the heart part.Once again, for both Master and slave, there is a compartmentalization and emotional disconnect with the inner self during a "session". That way when the play is over neither one has to deal with the consequences of what it means to themselves to have this be apart of their inner being. They can then say, " That was great buddy." pat each other on the back and go about their merry way until they think about getting together again. This way it isn't real and they aren't the people that society looks at and judges. we have to remember that we are all human beings and sexual at that. We are more alike than different.It is the day to day living as a Master and slave and its implications that frightens and keeps many from living the life that they NEED, want and deserve to be the happiest they will ever be in life, a meaningful life and one with purpose.

Another thing that keeps many Masters and slaves from coming together and having a full life is another of Society's ill. Age discrimination! Our society has reinforced the idea that you have to young, sometimes extremely so, to be of any value. That goes both ways for a Master and a slave. I am amazed at how many slaves will miss the opportunity to have a Master because they are older than 35 or 40. That is when you know they are really out for just some hot sex and not really being a slave as a lifestyle and reality. many don't realize that the older Master has experience on his side as well as stability in who and what they are. They are no longer looking for a career, finding out where they want to live. and feel the restrictions (however unrealistically) that they HAVE to be a certain way. They are more comfortable with themselves and their inner core and soul. They have a wealth of knowledge to teach a slave about being a slave. many times I think that slaves don't want to have older Masters because they are afraid that if they do, they might actually develop feelings for them. And i suppose many times they feel they can't be in control from the bottom if they are with an older Master. Which means they do not know what being a slave is all about and it is a game to them. The same can be said for Masters. Many Masters miss out on potential slaves because they think that they are worth anything being older than 35 or 40. It amazes me when a Master or a slave turns down the opportunity to have everything they are looking for, but say no because the Master or slave isn't young. While being attractive is important, that is why I am working out, they problem arises when expectation exceeds reality. Both Masters and slaves are seeking young looking Colt models when they each are the cover man for Bridge Trolls Monthly! and that can be said for any age not just older men! I have seen some 20 something trolls before!! it is sad when a Master turns down a slave that has all the qualities that he seeks and the maturity to commit to those things because they are over 35 or forty, The same is true of the older slave that turns down what they want because the Master is older than they, or they think a much younger Master will be what they want. They are once again looking for the fantasy and not the reality of what it means to be a slave and a Master. The same can be said of a Master in that, they are looking for a young man thinking that they will be able to keep them when at the younger ages they are somewhat fickle and still finding themselves and who they are. they are somewhere in the back of the mind I think finding an excuse not to fully invest in the young slave cause of the fear or knowledge that they will suddenly leave. Want total ownership but never achieving it and blaming the slave when one has to look inside themselves to see who is really to blame for not having what they want.

That being said, it begs to question." Are you seeking reality or a fulfillment of a fantasy?" You have to answer that question for yourself! any questions or comments can be sent to Raven15@consolidated.net