The Image In the Mirror is Cracked

I know that this entry isn't about the Dom/sub relationship but it goes to the substance of both.I have heard this complaint from both those in the chat rooms as well as in the real world. It is about the dating sites and the fraud that is perpetually riddle through out the internet world. This goes for straight as well as gay sites. Often times one of the most frequented "requirements" that seem to be in every profile is- they are looking for someone who is honest. The problem with that requirement is that the person placing the profile needs to be the same as what they are looking for. I mean there is something to be said when the profile stats match the picture but the picture is obviously twenty years old. The hair, the clothes, all are indicators of the age of the photograph. Don't be giving stats they were relevant twenty years ago, and have nothing to do with today. Then wonder why the person they met was't interested in having a relationship. The same individuals who scream the loudest that they can't find an honest man, are themselves dishonest.
Perhaps it isn't as prevalent in the straight world as it is in the gay world, but there are also alot of people on the net that are HIV+ but don't tell you, yet they want "absolute honesty" in the relationship. How honest can the relationship be when you are starting off with a lie about yourself to begin with. The problem with this dishonesty is the danger they present to the person they declare their undying love for. If they love them so much, why don't they tell people upfront that they are HIV+. It is as if there is something to be ashamed of by being HIV+. Several of my friends say they are at a loss when one of their HIV+ friends comes to them and tells them with extreme excitement about some man that they have met, only to find out they didn't divulge their health status. They are fearful as well of the rejection that may be coming when the man finds out. If only they were honest to begin with and then their excitement can be shared when they find out that the man is ok with it. After all, in this day and age and with all our education being what it is , there are certainly ways to be intimate without sacrificing our health. Now before you get all bent out of shape about what I just said, no I am not prejudice against people with HIV.I am, however, prejudiced against liars and possible malice of forethought.
The fear of rejection does make us act very weird at times. We tend to do things that we shouldn't or wouldn't do otherwise. Many times, to our own detriment, it is our own self prejudice that makes us act this way. Part of human development is loving ones self and accepting of life on life's terms. That doesn't mean you just lay there and "take it" as it were. But denying what make us who we are is not the answer. Once the lie, whatever it is, is exposed the trust goes out the window. Without trust there can be no real intimacy. Trust is what make intimacy so important in life. It is the being of oneself with all the flaws and still have love for the other person. That is the real test of a relationship. If one can find that kind of trust, then one has nirvana.
well as always if you have a comment or and entry idea you want me to expand on write me at raven15@consolidated.net Until next time, take care