We all want Ken or G.I.Joe..............Remember Though, They are Made of Plastic

Oh the Superficiality of it all! I have noticed in all the chat rooms that I visit there is one reoccurring theme. People are all looking for the eye-candy man. I mean they all want the guy that is buff, muscular, and defined like a gay porno star, or Ken or G.I.Joe doll. It is , as if, anyone that is not model material is not capable of love or being loved. That if they don't look like they go on the cover of a magazine, then they can't appreciate the love that someone wants to give. Worse still, is the thought that they might have a good heart and soul. I'm being over dramatic but it is the truth of our world. And not just the gay world, but the straight one as well. When do we as humans get past the superficiality that grips us. The internet allows us to get to look into the soul of people more than in the past. We are more able to get to know what a person thinks and the way they are on the inside. Unfortunately, if they are working on themselves, both physically and mentally, we have a tendency to put them in the discard pile. Why? Because they haven't' reached their physical goals, and lets not look at the fact that they are working on it. We seem to forget that the package can always change but it is the ingredients that stay the same and mean the most. That makes the internet a double edge sword as well as a light into the real soul of a person. Let me see if I can explain. I have seen this scenario happen time and time again. Two people meet on the net in a chat room. They hit it off and seem that each is exactly what the other is looking for. Then one finds out that the other is over weight and has lost 20lbs but needs to lose say, 50 more. Suddenly as if by magic, they aren't what the other is looking for. Never mind the fact that the one loosing weight hasn't said they are going to stop trying, or that they are on a journey to a better being, they suddenly are dropped like a hot potato. To me that is like walking out in the middle of a movie. I mean this person is evolving and changing into a better human being, just like the plot of a movie evolves and changes. But unless you are willing to stick it out until the end, then you never know what happens. That is the problem with most situations on the net. No one wants to make the commitment to see the soul of a person when they have completed their journey in life. So many Doms will look at a sub that is working on themsleves as not worthy of a glance. But let us not forget the story of the ugly duckling we were told as a child. The point of that fairytale is to not just look at the way things are at the time but that they can change. It is being willing to evolve with those changes that truly extoll a man's character.The same can be said of subs. Often times they think that they have to have the drummer or Mandate model for a Dom/Top and don't look at what happens outside the bedroom and in the light of reality. And we have to remember that just as we want the Ken doll so does the doll. I mean what happens, if you get the G.I.Joe doll for a mate, and YOU gain some weight? Or God Forbid You get laid off, or have a medical emergency that leaves you slightly disabled? The Ken doll id made of plastic, will he be of the character to stick around? Will he have the ability to rise above an animal looking for a good looking mate? We are ever more moving away from our emotional selves and toward our physical selves. The problem with that is that the human psych needs an emotional relationship to be healthy. So whether you are a top or bottom, Dom or sub, Master or slave or a SIR and a boy, none of that matters if there isn't something of their inner self involved in the relationship. The unconditional kind of inner self involved in the relationship. It amazes me that the ones that say that the other is to fat for them or doesn't have the right job is the very ones that don't exercise and are working a menial job themselves. I am in the process of re-inventing myself, both physically and mentally. I am also opening myself up to different things and experiences. Not just doing what is safe and without risk but taking a chance and seeing what happens. We have to be careful though, of not falling victim to our own self-prejudices. That is all I'm saying. Well I will leave you now and as usual, if you want to comment or want to get intouch with me, feel free to do so. Raven15@consolidated.net until next time have a great day!